Parenting teenage children: We all remember some of the punishments of our own childhood. How unjust they seemed, and how outraged we felt! Punishment undoubtedly has a place in parenting teenage children, but only a NEGATIVE place. Punishment does not make teenager children good. If teenager children are punished frequently, it may even make them bad. As suggested by veteran novelist, William Dean Howells, parents have clung to the wisdom of Solomon, in this respect, through centuries of changing conditions. Solomon said: “Spare the rod and spoil the child”; Mr. Howells suggests that we might with profit spoil the rod and spare the child. Love and patience are the secret of parenting teenagers. Have A Blessed Day!
Internet /Computer Addiction:
In USA, the Stanford University School of Medicine Study conducted a nationwide survey and found that 68.9 percent were regular Internet user, and that:
13.7 % found it’s hard to stay away from the Internet for several days at a time.
12.4 % stayed online longer than intended very often or often
12.3 % had seen a need to cut back on Internet use at some point
8.7 % attempted to conceal non-essential Internet use from family, friends and employers
8.2 % used the Internet as a way to escape problems or relieve negative mood
5.9 % felt their relationships suffered as a result of excessive Internet use
In China, 13 % of Chinese teenagers suffer from Internet addiction. Internet cafes was banned in year 2007.
A state media survey showed that young Chinese addicted to the Internet was leaped to 24 million last year. Nearly half of the teenagers surveyed use the Web to play games.The Chinese Government funded a military-style boot camp since 2004 to combat Internet addiction. Patients are mostly males teenagers.
Psychologists in China want ‘internet addiction’ officially recognized as a clinical disorder. Are they right?
“Feeling tense and angry because you cannot get online?” asks the state-run China Daily. Powerless to stop scouring eBay for second-hand bargains you don’t really need? Unable to tear yourself away from stalking would-be love interests on Facebook?
It could be a sign of “internet addiction”, according to psychologists in China, which could become the first nation to classify the problem as a clinical disorder.
Build your child’s confidence and self esteem, without being too talkative?
Parents should not show their frustration and disappointment too quickly, while taking too long to express appreciation towards their children. You can help build confidence and self-esteem in your children by focusing on encouraging comments, and create opportunities to discover and experience success.
As parents, you must love your children unconditionally, with consistent encouragement and praise. Do not make your children feel that they are incapable of doing things by doing far too much for them. Guide your children and make them understand the reason of having to do something.
Earn your children love by loving them, not by giving them things; giving things to children may earn favors but not love. Your children will love you for sure, if you express your love through your heart..
We all remember some of the punishments of our own childhood. How unjust they seemed, and how outraged we felt! Punishment undoubtedly has a place in parenting teenage children, but only a NEGATIVE place. Punishment does not make teenager children good. If teenager children are punished frequently, it may even make them bad. As suggested by veteran novelist, William Dean Howells, parents have clung to the wisdom of Solomon, in this respect, through centuries of changing conditions. Solomon said: “Spare the rod and spoil the child”; Mr. Howells suggests that we might with profit spoil the rod and spare the child. Love and patience are the secret of parenting teenagers. Have A Blessed Day!
There is no universal formula for parenting teenage children. To perform the duties of parenthood well, parents must put in efforts at understanding their teenage children more clearly. The understanding of our teenage children mind should not be left entirely in the hands of specialist, it concerns the parents. Parenting teens will be a pleasanter task if parents understand the workings of their teenagers’ mind.
It is better to let your teenage children be alone than in bad company. Evil communications corrupt good manners. Ill qualities are catching as well as diseases; and the mind is at least as much, if not a great deal more, liable to infection, than the body.Go with mean people, and you think life is mean. There is always hope for parents who takes any real interest in self-improvement. You are never too old to “turn over a new leaf” and begin a new record! To Your Success in Parenting!
Parenthood - Setting a good example is hard, but it is the challenge of parenthood that transforms and enhances society. It is the reason, I believe, that parenthood exists in the first place.
Nature has encoded in us the same magical parenting instinct that she has encoded it in all the creatures, this means that when one is sincere about being a good mother or father, one becomes the best parent one could ever be.
Parents cannot expect their teenage children, with their limited experience and undeveloped intellect, to understand us; many of the heartbreaks and misunderstandings between parents and teenage children are due to mistakes that could have been avoided if parents have put in more efforts at understanding their teenager’s mind.
“Youth fades; love droops; The leaves of friendship fall; A mother’s secret hope outlives them all ” Holmes
Parents can Prevent Children from becoming Addicted to Mobile Phones
The major mobile phone networks in the US have started to provide phone plans that will allow parents to monitor their teenage children use of mobile phones. For $5 or less a month, parents could set limits on a host of things from text messages to Web-surfing time.
It is hard to tell if the telephone companies are responding to a call for a solution to prevent phone addiction among juveniles. After all, in the US mobile phone market, the age-groups with the greatest potential for growth are the very young and the very old. Parental controls, therefore, could be one way through which mobile phone networks hope towin over children – via their parents.
Do the best you can, no more, no less. When you care too much about your children, you exhaust yourself and forget the joy that children bring; when you care too little, guilt and regret creeps in. You know you are enjoying as a parent when you are alert but relaxed. From now on, only entertain positive thoughts in your mind. Whatever task you have at hand, enjoy and look for the lessen life wants to teach you. True wisdom is to know what is best worth knowing, and to do what is best worth doing.
“If you can’t hold your children in your arms, please hold them in your heart” - Mother Clara Hale
What Can a Parent Do To Help Prevent School-Related Violence?
There’s a lot that a parent can do; and being active in your teenagers lives is a huge step. Listen as they discuss their friends, their school, and the environment that they’re spending most of their day in.
Listen to your child, if he says that his friends are into something they shouldn’t be, and know when you need to encourage your teenage children to speak up to a teacher or authority figure about something that’s happening to them, or their friends. Being active in the school can also impact the rate—and risk—of violence. Attend PTA meetings,and express your concerns. Discuss safety with the principles, or teachers, and learn how you can play a part in stopping violence.